Moving on after a breakup is rarely a straight line. Often, we tell ourselves we are fine, yet certain habits keep us tethered to the past. This guide explores 15 signs you're not over your ex to help you identify if you are truly ready for a new chapter.
Digital and Social Media Habits
Your online behavior is often the first place where lingering feelings manifest. These signs you're not over your ex show up in how you interact with their digital shadow.
- Checking their Instagram or TikTok stories from a burner account.
- Rereading old text messages and looking at the timestamps of when they were last 'active'.
- Keeping their photos in your 'Favorites' folder instead of archiving them.
The Comparison Trap
When you start dating again, you might find yourself measuring everyone against a ghost. This is a clear indicator of how to know your not over your ex.
- Comparing every new person you meet to your ex's best qualities.
- Feeling disappointed when a new date doesn't share the same hobbies as your ex.
- Bringing up your ex's name or 'our' stories during a first date with someone new.
Communication and Indirect Ties
Maintaining contact (or seeking it out) keeps the wound open. These behaviors suggest someone's not over an ex through unnecessary proximity.
- Staying in close contact with their family members just to hear updates about them.
- Inventing 'emergencies' or 'questions' as an excuse to send them a text.
- Frequent 'accidental' run-ins at their favorite coffee shop or gym.
Emotional Lingering and Future 'What-Ifs'
The mental space your ex occupies can tell you a lot about your heart's current state. These are common signs she's still in love with her ex or signs he is still in love with his ex.
- Fantasizing about a grand reconciliation or a cinematic apology.
- Waiting for their text on holidays, birthdays, or anniversaries.
- Feeling a sharp sting of jealousy when you hear they might be seeing someone else.
Behaviors That Suggest Someone's Not Over An Ex
Sometimes the signs are subtle and relate to how you project your life to the world. Look for these internal shifts in your daily routine.
- Posting 'thirst traps' or specific content specifically because you know they will see it.
- Holding onto their old hoodie or a specific gift because it still smells like them.
- Analyzing the breakup repeatedly to figure out exactly where things went wrong (ruminating).
